tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22856455.post5894610359612893862..comments2023-06-15T09:51:49.216-04:00Comments on Always Faith -- The Blog: UGH.Always Faithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09968983553161443412noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22856455.post-46968775385923014412008-03-19T12:00:00.000-04:002008-03-19T12:00:00.000-04:00Not sure if I have a "mommy" comment or not. But ...Not sure if I have a "mommy" comment or not. But I'll tell you from a "child's" point of view. If you do it and you know Parents said not to, expect punishment. Spanking, grounding, favorite toy taken away. Mom says I didn't get spanked much b/c I saw the boys get into so much trouble I decided that I didn't need to go there. *lol* Thanks to the brothers! I learned from your mistakes!! hahaha.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22856455.post-92085556916378154192008-03-15T11:11:00.000-04:002008-03-15T11:11:00.000-04:00If they knew it was wrong, then they should still ...If they knew it was wrong, then they should still receive some sort of "punishment" in my opinion. :)Rochellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09397904386163424092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22856455.post-48470129489440927072008-03-15T10:47:00.000-04:002008-03-15T10:47:00.000-04:00Good advice! I have nothing more to offer, HANG I...Good advice! I have nothing more to offer, HANG IN THERE! You are not alone. We are all making tough decisions every minute of every day!Janellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08641361088547821873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22856455.post-90714356191674151042008-03-15T08:43:00.000-04:002008-03-15T08:43:00.000-04:00I don't think I ever, "named" a certain punishment...I don't think I ever, "named" a certain punishment for my girls. I was not creative enough, or had energy enough, to come up with several different concequinces. When they done something wrong for the first time, for example, Anna bit Casey's finger for the first time, I didn't spank her. I repremanded and explained why she shouldn't do it. I didn't say , now if you do this again, this is what will happen. I expected her to "not" do it again. of course, months later she did and her consecuinces were handed out. She knew better, since she had been there before. <BR/>I think if you say, "Now if you do such and such again, this is what will happen", you are giving the child the impression that you expect that behavior again. When I correct my children, in whatever way I feel will be affective at the moment, depending on the offense, (with love and patience) I don't expect them to do it again, and I don't give them that impression. <BR/>God is such a good gauge.Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06972279183749493143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22856455.post-38713581024157634972008-03-14T17:18:00.000-04:002008-03-14T17:18:00.000-04:00I think you are doing a great job with these child...I think you are doing a great job with these children. I love reading you posted about them. You make me laugh. YOu see the humor in parenting and that is soooooooooooooo important. I know you will make the right choice for you have God on your side. *grin* I am not sure of the other party in your household. LOL !! The only thing that comes to mind is.. get the book written by forcus on the family about "stubborn will child" It's a great book and may help you. He also has a book called raising sons and a book on raising daughters. Check it them out!!LeAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05019871993953283930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22856455.post-44872119013261727952008-03-14T13:44:00.000-04:002008-03-14T13:44:00.000-04:00Rochelle & Casey, I have to say I agree, that all ...Rochelle & Casey, I have to say I agree, that all makes sense and thanks for putting your sense (cents) in...LOL. <BR/><BR/>I guess I should clarify a little bit though since my post from last night doesn't seem very clear this morning....LOL. A consequence should be enforced EVEN if they didn't know what the EXACT consequence was going to be ahead of time as long as they DID know that X Behavior = Consequence?Always Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09968983553161443412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22856455.post-62302996914090558112008-03-14T12:07:00.000-04:002008-03-14T12:07:00.000-04:00Wow!! Sounds like you have your hands full. I'm no...Wow!! Sounds like you have your hands full. I'm no expert on kids, since I'm single and all and don't have any *grin*. But I have done my share of taking care of other peoples kids and in my oppinion if they know what they did is wrong, and they've already been warned, than consequences should follow.KChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00959717777458675668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22856455.post-92084930473602161282008-03-14T11:58:00.000-04:002008-03-14T11:58:00.000-04:00Okay Faith - ya gotta know I love this stuff - all...Okay Faith - ya gotta know I love this stuff - all stuff behavior/psychology I LOVE! These were always my fav classes in school!! This might be long, sorry. Anyways... so here is my 2 cents! :)<BR/><BR/>If the child knows it is wrong then you should "punish" the child. Whether that punishment is positive punishment (spanking (pos bc you added something) or negative (neg bc you take something away like a toy) the punishment should happen immediately after the unwanted behavior. And then try to be consistent. If every time a child performs an undesirable behavior, the parent immediately responds with a punishment, that child will KNOW and expect to be in trouble. So if you are not consistent, then you are sending your child a message that he/she will only get in trouble some times for performing that behavior. Those behaviors, proven in research, are some of the hardest behaviors to stop. So consistency is the key.... AND... along with that, if you go crazy and excited when your child performs a desirable behavior, and are consistent with that, your child will begin to perform the desirable behavior more often knowing that he/she will receive praise!! Also, when a child does display undesirable behavior that needs to be extinguished, it is best if the punishment is done with little "attention." What I mean is if you send them for a time out (first, don't send them to a place like their room where they would have access to their toys because they are distracted and won't associate the punishment with a negative consequence) but if you sit in a chair and tell them not to move for 5 minutes, don't make a big deal about it. Firmly tell them to sit with very little emotion and such. But when they do a positive behavior go crazy with positive affirmations!! They will learn that they will not receive attention from unwanted behaviors, but WILL receive attention from desirable behaviors!!<BR/><BR/>See.... I told you this wasn't gonna be a short answer!! Sorry!! That's my 2 cents anyway!! It works well for me anyway!! :)Rochellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09397904386163424092noreply@blogger.com