Well, I was all set to like the judge....she nailed this one bio parent who was very obviously making excuses....and she seemed to be a reasonable person in all the cases I heard up to K-man's......
You know where this is goin, right?
BioM requested that she be given more time b/c she couldn't get everything done in the last three months. Never mind the fact that she just started working on it THIS week. Never mind all the things in the record against her, AND never mind the recommendations of the GAL & DSS for a cease of re-unification immediately and move him straight to permanency planning.
So judge lady gave her two more months to work her case plan. And at the same time said OUT LOUD in the court room, I feel that Ms. ____ is never going to be capable of parenting this child appropriately and I do not believe that it is going to make any difference if she has more time, but we will review this again in January. UGH. Hello.
Which made them happy and they decided to push their luck and request visitation be re-opened.....from what I could understand, the judge said no way, no how. Which is at least one smart decision. I think the judge said (although I can't be certain....i couldn't hear so well) that the reason BioM was giving that the visits should be started again was not the reason they were discontinued in the first place.
Which makes ME think that if the reason visits were discontinued in the first place was because poor K-man went BALLISTIC whenever he saw his BioM and wouldn't let her get near him and then had night terrors for days afterwards, and if that is reason enough for the visits to remain discontinued, then how could you ever THINK of making him go back to her?
I have to say. BioM and two of her family members sat in front of me in court and I was not impressed at all. To say the least. I would not feel one bit good about K-man going back to her OR going to live with her family. I'm not really snotty about stuff, but seriously....we are in the 21st century and there are these crazy convenient things in our world called SHOWERS that almost EVERYONE has access to, even if you don't OWN one......and it might help if you saw the inside of one every now and then. I'm also not really keen (okay, make that not at all keen) on guys who have long hair, who don't wash it, and then tie it back in a greasy ponytail. The fact that I could smell them when they came in and sat down, but I was far enough away that I couldn't hear what they were whispering to each other is pretty telling, too.
God, please.....I was pretty sure we were the best place for the K-man, but now I'm positive. PLEASE don't let him leave us. He's so happy here. Please don't let him go back to that. Amen.